Finishing high school is one of the most defining milestones in a young person’s life. It marks the end of childhood dependency and the beginning of personal responsibility, exploration and identity formation. For parents, it is not just the completion of classes, exams and school routines; it is the culmination of years of sacrifice, mentorship, discipline and emotional investment. For this reason, many parents feel a natural desire to reward their children when they finally cross this important threshold. The challenge, however, is choosing the right kind of reward—one that celebrates the achievement without breeding entitlement or distorting their values.
Rewards are most beneficial when they reinforce the lessons of hard work, character and responsibility. A well-thought-out reward reminds the child that effort is honoured, growth is valued and achievement carries meaning. Unfortunately, many families fall into the trap of associating rewards with material extravagance. While gifts have their place, the most meaningful rewards are those that support the child’s next stage of life, build their confidence and strengthen the family bond.
One of the most powerful and often overlooked rewards is affirmation. Teenagers, especially in their final year of high school, often deal with pressure, anxiety, self-doubt and emotional instability. A heartfelt message from parents acknowledging their resilience, discipline and growth can do more for their self-esteem than any expensive gift. A simple letter expressing pride, a special family dinner, or a meaningful conversation can validate them on a deep emotional level. This kind of recognition teaches them that their worth is tied to their effort and character—not to material possessions.
Parents can also reward their children through thoughtful and symbolic gifts. These are gifts that speak to identity and transition. A classic watch, for example, symbolizes the importance of time management as they step into adulthood. A high-quality journal, a laptop for university, a bookshelf, or personalized items such as engraved pens and photo frames can carry emotional weight and practical value. The goal is not extravagance but symbolism—marking the transition from adolescence to adulthood with something memorable and useful.
Another meaningful form of reward is support for their next chapter in life. Whether a child is joining university, college, TVET, or entering the job market, they will need tools, skills and preparation. Parents can reward them by paying for driving school, enrolling them in a short course such as coding, graphic design, baking, photography or language studies. This not only boosts their confidence but also equips them with marketable skills. Helping them set up a savings account or giving them a small financial token for personal planning also teaches them responsibility and financial literacy.
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In many cases, experiential rewards leave a deeper impact than physical items. A family trip, a nature hike, a visit to a national park, or attending a concert or theatre performance exposes them to the world, builds memories and broadens their perspective. Experiences shape identity and cultivate curiosity. They remind the child that life is not only about exams and achievements but also about joy, exploration and bonding with loved ones. Such experiences strengthen the relationship between parent and child at a crucial transitional stage.
As young people step into adulthood, they crave autonomy, trust and a sense of belonging. Parents can therefore make responsibility itself a reward. Involving them in meaningful decision-making—such as choosing a university course, managing a small budget, or helping in family planning—communicates trust. Allowing them to take part in community service or letting them mentor younger siblings also promotes maturity. These acts develop leadership qualities and nurture a sense of social responsibility, reminding them that success is not just personal but also communal.
In a world that increasingly celebrates quick gratification and flashy displays, it is important for parents to teach their children that rewards should not create entitlement. Giving large sums of money or overly luxurious gifts can inadvertently shift the child’s focus from achievement to expectation. Instead, parents should choose rewards that promote growth, gratitude and humility. A modest cash token, for example, can still be meaningful if accompanied by guidance on budgeting and financial responsibility. What matters most is the intention, not the value.
Parents can also incorporate the idea of giving back as part of the celebration. Encouraging the child to donate a small amount to charity, volunteer in a community project or participate in mentorship helps reinforce values of empathy, compassion and service. Such experiences teach young adults that success becomes more meaningful when shared, and that personal milestones offer opportunities to uplift others.
Ultimately, the most important thing for parents to remember is that every child is different. Some appreciate emotional affirmation, others value practical gifts, and others prefer experiences. What matters is choosing a reward that aligns with the child’s personality, interests and future aspirations. A well-chosen reward affirms their journey, supports their transition, and strengthens the bond between parent and child.
In the end, rewarding children after completing high school is not just about celebration. It is about shaping values, preparing them for adulthood and acknowledging their hard work. When thoughtfully done, rewards become tools of empowerment—helping young people step confidently into the next chapter of their lives.
By Ashford Kimani
Ashford teaches English and Literature in Gatundu North Sub-county and serves as Dean of Studies.
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