By Victor Ochieng’
On May 26, 2022, Dr. Murage Muthui, the level-headed Chief Principal of Njoro School, cordially invited me to address Form One students and their parents during the auspicious Induction and Orientation Day.
Before I edged to the podium to deliver my pep talk, some teachers were given a chance to talk about what transpires in their departments.
The teacher in charge of Guidance and Counselling in the school apprised Form One parents pertaining useful programmes in the school that cater for the psycho-social side of learners.
She passionately explained how the school is committed to mentor boys to become men of manners. She also shared something on how the schools impart values of empathy and altruism in learners.
Njoro School has what is referred to as Benevolence Day, where the chaplaincy and guidance and counseling teams confer with the administration to settle on one Sunday per term, where all the members of those fraternities are mobilized to show kindness and compassion towards needy students in the school.
The expression of love and kindness is done either in cash or kind. While we were there, as friends of good-will, we also looped into this benevolent programme.
Akin to what happens in churches, ushers went round so that those who were touched by the plight of poor students gave generously without demur. In the sacred scriptures, Jesus of Nazareth said there will always be poor people in our midst. Whenever Jesus saw multitudes in His preaching expeditions, He was moved by compassion for people.
Such acts teach students to be compassionate towards their fellows from humble backgrounds. Such acts are in many schools as I have witnessed alumni pulling resources together to act as beacons of light and hope to students who are experiencing cash crunch.
Philanthropic old students have defrayed fees of students with chilling challenges. In the whole scheme of things, when needy students are propped up by people whose breads are well-battered, this plants in their mortal minds the pleasant thoughts of giving back in future when they become professionals with means to survive and thrive.
I loved what I saw in Njoro School. I felt that apart from taking care of needy students in the school, the generous gesture also taught the entire student body how to be empathetic and altruistic in nature. For by and large, these two values, are part and parcel of Emotional Intelligence: the provenance of this soft skill is attributed to the putative American author called Dr. Daniel Goleman.
In his good book titled Emotional Intelligence, he came up with five important areas worth mentioning on this special space: Self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and social intelligence. In a book titled Social Intelligence, whose oeuvre makes it look like a sequel of the aforementioned one, he talked of Social Awareness and Social Facility.
The former, focuses on four areas: Primal empathy, attunement, empathic accuracy and social cognition while the latter puts premium on synchrony, self-presentation, influence and concern.
Over and above, empathy and altruism are very important when it comes to human engineering. These are values we must all strive to impart in children when they are still young and virgin so that they will know how to live with others in the society.
Charles Darwin, the proponent of Evolution Theory, proposed that empathy – the prelude to compassionate action, has been a wonderful aid to the survival in nature’s toolkit.
He posited that empathy lubricates sociability, which is of essence because human beings are social animals par excellence. Somehow, the sociability of mere mortals has been the primary survival strategy. Empathy can become strong to an extent that we can choose to focus on someone, and in turn, form an emotional loop.
The writer rolls out talks and training programmes in schools.
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